Urban Garden Denver Blog

Memorial Gardens

This post is in memory of the life of my mother-in-law. She loved flowers. As I reflect on her life, she was a very practical, loyal, faithful person. She was born in 1911, so she came to adulthood in the depression. Frugality and practicality are hallmarks of her generation. When I first got to know her, she was 70. At that point of her life, she still canned lots of fruits and vegetables from her large yard. I remember going into the shed in the back yard with her and being amazed at all the home-canned produce. My father-in-law did the vegetable garden, but she was in charge of the flowers.

I find it lovely and remarkable that she invested so much time and energy into flowers. I remember enormous dahlias and how she would work hard at the ph balance around the hydrangea bush to get just the color she wanted. She was also generous with her flowers. She would cut large bouquets for the Christian Women’s Club lunches. Even in later years, she got enjoyment from potted flowers.

This spring, I’ll plant some old-fashioned perennials in a section of my garden to remember her. I have other memorial plants in my garden. I have some iris I transplanted from my mother’s home when we sold it after she died. There is a tree at our last home that was planted after my father died.

People matter way more than flowers, and I’m so thankful that God holds his people in his hand. But flowers do bring joy and beauty and hope to our lives. After all, the earliest account we have of people was in a garden. And the plants in the garden were not just practical, for food, but they were also “pleasing to the eye.” (Genesis 2:9)

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  1. * Elisa says:

    Carla, you were a very loving daughter-in-law, demonstrated by your kind comments here. May God’s love bloom forth with peace and comfort in you and your family. You are loved!

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 3 months ago
  2. * Kathy Skipton says:

    What a nice tribute to all the special people in your life. Take care and see you soon.

    Kathy Skipton

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 3 months ago
  3. * Karen Aalund says:

    Carla, what a beautiful memorial to your mother-in-law. Thirteen years ago we planted a tree in our front yard on Father’s Day to honor my father-in-law who passed away that year. At the time, I would not have realized how significant this would be, as it truly keeps the memory of him alive. Thank you for this thoughtful reminder of the celebration of lives through the beauty of nature.

    I love your blog!

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 3 months ago
  4. * sandra schaffer says:

    I too like the idea of memorial plants and trees. Thanks for sharing Carla

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 2 months ago
  5. * sandra says:

    We brought back seedlings from a Japanese Maple that is in my father-in-law’s back yard in Pennsylvania. The tree has been loved by all family members, and hopefullly we can get the seedlings to mature in Denver to remember Tim’s family.

    | Reply Posted 10 years ago

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